The importance of cuddling

Maybe you have experienced it yourself: after a hug you suddenly feel another person. Happier, calmer and satisfied. As if all worries just drop away from you. Sometimes you do not need a massage, but just a comprehensive hug treatment. 

What is the healing effect of cuddling?

Hugs and other forms of non-sexual physical touch such as holding your hand and caressing your scalp hair act on the physical level to help calm the brain and body through overwhelming states of fear, panic, and shame.

When can a cuddle be useful?

Cuddles ensure that your nervous system comes to rest. The feeling of loss, of unfulfilled needs, disappears and a feeling of fulfillment replaces it.

Recent neuroscientific research also shows that our body reacts strongly when we are emotionally affected or become upset. The emotion settles in your body. These physical reactions bring discomfort or are even unbearable. What can you do about these reactions of your body? is there an alternative to drugs, drugs or psychological protective mechanisms such as oppression? Touch appears to be the most efficient, effective and moreover natural method, according to Hilary Jacobs Hendel (New York Times, sept 2015).

What is cuddling actually?

Hugging is loving or caring pressing against one or more people. The hug is a common way to show affection, just like giving a kiss. A hug offers comfort, security, encourages you to express your feelings and makes you feel understood. A hug also creates a bond of trust.

What happens in my body during cuddling?

During a hug, your body reduces the production of stress hormones (including cortisol, adrenaline and noradrenaline) and releases hormones, including oxytocin, endorphins and serotonin. These hormones make you feel more comfortable. In this way you can relax physically and mentally.

How do you give a good, healing hug?

A therapeutic hug, one designed to calm the nervous system, requires some practice. A good hug should feel genuine and be wholehearted. You cannot give half hugs. You face the other and hug the other. In doing so, you ensure that both bodies touch each other completely. Yes, it is intimate, but certainly not sexual. You give a hug with a different intention, namely from compassion for the other and a deliberate intention to offer the other comfort. It is literally a heart-to-heart experience: your heartbeat regulates the heartbeat of the other. You hold the other until the moment that the other is ready to let go. If you do this earlier, the hug will not be effective.

Can I receive a hug before or after a massage?

Yes, every massage ends with a hug. And in addition to massages and coaching, I also offer more extensive ones cuddly treatments On. During a cuddle treatment I hug and caress you. That caress is aimed at your well-being, so without sexual intentions. During such a treatment you experience a warm touch, relaxation and genuine attention. Besides hugs you can lie in my arms or against each other and I can caress and hold you softly or firmly.

Is it a problem if I get excited during cuddling?

Excitement can happen if touch is exciting to you. It is then a very normal and healthy response from your body. Usually that sensation disappears fairly quickly, after which a feeling of peace and relaxation predominates. If you get aroused during a cuddle treatment, it may just be there. But it is not addressed. It is not possible to have sex during a hugging treatment and no erotic acts take place.

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Tijs

Tijs Breuer is 52 years old, a certified personal coach, body worker and masseur. Essence coaching is aimed at getting you to the core of who you really are. Tijs works with personal attention, touch and presence. It helps you to feel better about yourself.

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