Practice of Tijs Breuer - massage - coaching - bodywork - tantra - bereavement
All attention to yourself
On this site you will find news en information about ways to get closer to yourself by massage en body-oriented coaching. Learn to listen to your body and feel better about yourself. You can be guided and supported by Tijs Breuer. He works next to massage en coaching also with oa body work, tantra en pensions.
READ THE LATEST NEWSLETTER "Points of Light in Dark Days"
News items
- Update Coronavirus: Massages are allowed again
- Free home visit
- Love yourself? Mindful Masturbation
- Medicine wheel and heart circle
- Tears during a treatment
- Burnout symptoms and loneliness often go together
DEVIATING OPENING TIMES The practice is closed from 25 to 30 August 2021 LOCATIONS AND TIMES UTRECHT MONDAY 19:30 - 22:30 TUESDAY 8:00 AM - 22:30 PM WEDNESDAY 8:00 AM - 22:30 PM THURSDAY 8:00 AM - 22:30 PM SATURDAY 18:00 PM - 22:30 PM SUNDAY 8:00 AM - 12:00 PM and 18:00 PM - 22:30 PM AMSTERDAM FRIDAY 8:00 AM - 20:00 PM NIJMEGEN MONDAY 8:00 - 18:00 THE HAGUE THURSDAY (every other week) 13:00 - 22:30
Massage
Do you feel like relaxation? Have you been sitting still for a long time or just hurt after it sports? During a Esalen massage you feel the cohesion and wholeness in your body again. The wavy movements of Alchemy or Touch help to release stress and tension and get closer to yourself. For bodywork such as MER together we investigate what is going on in you, so that you come into deeper contact with your inner universe. Do you want to enjoy more and have more life energy? Then try one Tantra massage.
Coaching
Do you want to change something in your life, private or work? Then coaching can provide insight and help you to take steps. Tijs Breuer works with essence coaching, leadership coaching, hiking coaching, body-oriented coaching, burnout coaching of trauma processing.
Meetup
De meetups of the groups “Men in Touch NL”(For men) and“Embodied” (mixed) focus on mindfulness, contact and touch. There are live evenings in Utrecht and Amsterdam. There are also online meetups, such as sharing circles, (movement) meditations and self-touch workshops.
COVID-19
Tijs Breuer is fully vaccinated. The practice has been fully open since 3 March 2021. The precautionary measures partly apply: a health check and corona check (preferably with QR code) and what you need will be discussed during the intake. Together we provide a safe setting, where you feel comfortable. You can also choose home visit or a online session.
Dealing with stress
Many people suffer from stress on a regular basis. If you suffer from this, then you are certainly not the only one.
You may have a stomachache before an interview, an important presentation or after a difficult meeting. A rushed feeling, palpitations and a short fuse are signs of stress.
These examples of temporary stress are actually very normal body reactions to a challenging or stressful situation, which usually disappear after a few hours. This natural survival mechanism keeps you on your toes and makes sure you spring into action.
If stress occurs more often, the consequences can be serious and you may suffer from physical and mental complaints. Mentally you can think of worrying, insomnia, less self-confidence or feelings of panic. And physical complaints such as headaches, palpitations, trembling and stomach pain and even a lowered resistance with inflammation are common consequences. And eventually hope, faith and trust disappear from your life.
It is therefore good if you learn to recognize these physical signals, because your body does not sound the bell for nothing. So it's time to take a break or build in some rest.
How do I recognize stress in myself?
By taking a moment to feel inside, into your body. Check with yourself whether you suffer from:
- increased heart rate
- tense jaws or face
- fast or high breathing
- chest pressure
Can mindfulness help with stress?
Mindfulness exercises can help bring you more into your body and take control of your thoughts. For example, if you worry a lot about things that could go wrong or have negative thoughts about yourself. These mindfulness tips can help you:
- Let go of any judgment about yourself and others.
- Observe what is happening in your environment.
- Use your senses: consciously looking, smelling, listening and feeling.
- Focus on this moment, this place.
- Listen to your body's signals.
- Observe the thoughts and feelings that arise as an outsider.
- Accept that new thoughts keep coming, but don't hold on to them.
- Keep your attention focused on your body and your breathing.
Ik find it difficult to meditate but would you rather go outside. Is that also effective against stress?
Exercising, especially outside in nature, is a very good remedy for stress. Being outside in a natural environment immediately reduces your stress level. Movement also helps very effectively, because it brings your attention out of your head and into your body. Therefore, make use of the increasing range of care, sports, yoga and exercise outside in the green.
What signals indicate that I am under too much stress?
Don't you sleep a wink at night because it's so busy at work? Or do you already start your working day with a stomachache, trembling hands or eyes? Then it's time to do something about it. Perhaps more is being asked of you right now than you think you can handle. It is especially important if you are not feeling well, suffer from anxiety, insomnia or sadness, or if you are facing overstrain or a burnout. I am happy to help you deal with stress differently and to let go of your tense string and find a better balance.
Newsletter “Points of light in dark days” - December 2020
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| Tonight is the longest night… This turning point in nature is always a special moment for me to reflect on. We are now furthest from the sun. We are closest to the dark side in ourselves. I would like to wish you a nice Christmas and New Year's time in this way. Hopefully surrounded by love and warmth. And hopefully we will keep in touch, also in the new year. |
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| This morning I noticed again how much peace it gives to be in the dark. The dark offers us the opportunity to look at the dark sides within ourselves. I look at myself, at my dark side, the habits, thoughts and patterns that I would rather not see. My dreams this morning gave me a glimpse into those unconscious and peculiar bits of myself, my rude needs and desires. For me, for example, this is the need to be surrounded by people all the time, the tendency to “be useful” and therefore to plan my agenda. Watching this dark part of myself is educational. It makes me accept myself with everything that goes with it. And it awakens the longing for light and liberation in me. For example my desire for timelessness, useless enjoyment, surrender in the moment, and also feeling connected to others when I am alone. The more I become aware of my dark side, the more space I can give to this light. |
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| Solstice spiral On December 23rd from 15:30 pm, I lay a Yule solstice spiral. When you walk into the spiral, you walk within yourself, into the earth, to your darkest point. There is a candle, the bright spot you can find in the dark. This light can be felt in yourself, you carry it out with you and you can share this light with others. Feel free to come by to design your own ritual. Time: between 15:30 pm and 18:30 pm. Location: in the garden of the Huisje Land van Dromen. Address: Westbroekse Binnenweg, 20, Tienhoven (Ut). |
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| No massages during lockdown The Netherlands is in lockdown again, at least until Tuesday 19 January 2021. Contact professions such as giving a relaxation massage, bodywork or tantra session are not allowed. My practice is therefore largely closed. I do give coaching and mindfulness sessions, online sessions (including meditation, tantra and self-touch) and online workshops. Read more… Free home visit During the lockdown we are asked to stay at home as much as possible. For regular customers I temporarily offer (until February 8, 2021) the possibility for a treatment at your home (e.g. a coaching session or, when this is allowed again, body work or massage). This offer applies to home visits within a maximum travel distance of 30 minutes. Do you live further away? Please contact us to discuss what is reasonable. Read more… Online meditations The most popular guided meditation and meditation music app is InsightTimer. You will also find Dutch meditations of mine. Follow me through this link or search for Tijs Breuer in the Whatsapp. In this way you can listen to my voice to create a moment of rest for yourself. |
| Every second Sunday of the month at 20:00 PM I provide a guided sitting meditation in my living room and via Zoom under the heading “City lighting”. Research shows that when groups of people are regularly quiet together, this creates harmony and flow in the group and beyond. Urban lighting is an initiative to stimulate a culture of lighting. Everywhere in the country people open their living room for meditation or meeting in silence. After the meditation, at 20:45 PM, you can join an online yoga class provided by Nicholas Wake and then we share our experiences. I give one every fourth Sunday of the month motion meditation via Zoom, also followed by online yoga. Meditation by sitting still is quite difficult for most people, because we are used to being exposed to stimuli all day long, while your body needs movement. Movement meditation ensures that you quickly regain your peace and that you go in more with your attention. You make an inner journey through an alternation of intensive and subtle movement. You can register your participation for both meditations via the Meetup group “Embodied”. You will also find yoga and breathing lessons provided by my daughter Eva. |
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| Meetups for men Fortunately, after the rain, sunshine will come again and hopefully we can touch each other again in some time. Men in particular are sometimes a bit insecure about touching each other. The meetups of MeninTouchNL offer men the opportunity to become familiar with all kinds of contact and touch in a relaxed, safe and playful environment. I am proud that this small-scale initiative with a few men has now reached almost 1000 participants. I am looking forward to organizing workshops and meetups again, such as the massage lessons and practice evenings, the monthly Tantra Journey and YoungMeninTouchNL massage class. New are the meetups “Playful movement & Touch” in Amsterdam and “Movement and touch for Krasse Knarren” in Tienhoven. On my website you can get a “strip card”For 7 meetups. |
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| Gift certificate with extra discount Do you want to make a friend, colleague or loved one happy with a special gift? And at the same time help me through the lockdown? You can now temporarily with a discount of up to € 27,00 via my booking site purchase a gift certificate. Then you can also send an email (reply to this email) or a donation to do. A gift voucher of € 67,00 costs € 50,00 A gift voucher of € 85,00 costs € 60,00 A gift voucher of € 117,00 costs € 90,00. |
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Massages are allowed again, although the lockdown has been extended again
UPDATE COVID-19 - March 3, 2021
GOOD NEWS! Since March 3, 2021, the practice has been fully opened again, also for massage, bodywork and tantra. The lockdownmeasures have been relaxed and contact professions are allowed again. The precautionary measures continue to apply.
UPDATE COVID-19 - February 2, 2021
All current measures will remain in effect for the time being, at least until March 2, 2021. After that, massages, bodywork and tantra sessions may be given again. So wait and see again. Read below: “Coaching allowed”.
UPDATE COVID-19 - January 12, 2021
The strict lockdown in the Netherlands has been extended by three weeks until February 9, 2020. Because contact professions are closed, no treatments with massage, bodywork or tantra can be given. The practice remains open for intake interviews, coaching, online sessions and mindfulness.
UPDATE COVID-December 19 - December 15, 2020
The coronavirus is spreading rapidly again. In recent weeks, we have seen a rapid increase in the number of infections, to around 9.000 per day. That is why the Netherlands will be in the strictest lockdown to date during the Christmas period - from Tuesday December 15, 2020 to Tuesday January 19, 2021. Contact professions such as giving a relaxation massage, bodywork or tantra session are again not allowed. The practice is therefore largely closed, with the exception of coaching sessions.
Coaching is allowed
Coaching does not fall under the contact professions. Even if contact professions are closed during the lockdown, coaching sessions can still be given. In all forms of coaching (such as life coaching, leadership coaching, stress or burn-out coaching, business-oriented coaching) the general Corona measures.
Also one home visit possible and temporarily free during the lockdown (max 30 min travel time). It is then mandatory to use a face mask to carry. Also continues Online coaching of hiking coaching (outdoors) possible. A physical distance does not necessarily mean a mental distance.
The Dutch Association of Professional Coaches (NOBCO) has one infographic “safe to the coach” composed for coaching in corona time.
What is the added value of online coaching today?
Tijs Breuer “In practice I see many people struggling with loneliness, this has been reinforced as a result of the Corona crisis. There is also an increase in career questions, many people are looking for a different job. Managers are looking for a different leadership style, because how do you lead and motivate employees when everyone works from home? Many clients also run into relationship issues, especially now that you are less able to avoid working from home. ”
Love yourself? Mindful Masturbation!
What is Mindful Masturbation?
Loving and satisfying yourself while raising your awareness. In mindful masturbation, the focus is not on getting off as soon as possible, but on enjoying your sex parts and your whole body in the moment.
What Can I Learn When I Masturbate Mindful?
You learn more about what brings you to climax. And more importantly, you will discover the magic of "arrousal", excitement, a powerful way to feel a deep connection with yourself. It allows you to figure out what you want without depending on anyone else.
Learn how to stay present in the moment, how to consciously feel your body and experiment with it. You can see it as a short inner journey, enjoying every moment. We are often used to masturbate in the same way all the time because you know that it works, but that also means that you come quickly and we don't want that. Therefore, approach masturbation with an open and curious mind. This helps you to discover new things and feel better about yourself. You can stimulate yourself in other ways, with attention, love and playfulness, so that you experience more pleasure in touching yourself.
Mindful masturbation was quite a journey of discovery. Once I went for it, I started stimulating my imagination. I touched my body in other ways. I teased myself. I masturbated with my other hand. I turned the light on or off, with a candle lit or in the bathroom, in front of the mirror. It took practice. Every time I just wanted to make it to the finish line, I slowed down and focused back on my ultimate goal: connecting with myself. By trying so much new, I interacted with myself in a completely different way. I started to love myself more and move around the world differently, with more confidence, and more like a sexual being. I felt more and more liberation and I am now more and more looking forward to my masturbation moments. ”
Rea Frey is the author of Because You're Mine
How much time should I allow for mindful masturbation?
Really take your time, at least half an hour. Deal with it like when you make love to someone else. Unfortunately, there are always reasons not to take that time. We blame our lack of mindfulness or self-love on being too busy. In the meantime, we spend hours a day on social media, Netflix and television. You really don't need more time for mindfulness and investing in your body awareness. You don't have to stop everything and sit cross-legged for an hour to reap the benefits of mindfulness in your life. Mindfulness is simply the art of being present in your body at any time. And what better time and place to do that than while masturbating?
“Self-pleasure is one of the most powerful and radical things a woman can do in this world. We make time for the things that are important to us. Therefore, give yourself permission to spend time on your own pleasure. "
Rena McDaniel, M.Ed., clinical sexologist
Create your private session
Below you can read how to create your own special moment to love yourself and masturbate with yourself with extra attention and mindfulness.
Preparation
Schedule enough time. Although you might normally be through with yourself after 30 minutes, take at least XNUMX minutes for this act of self-love. And make sure you can't be disturbed. Door locked, phone on silent. Make sure you have everything you need to experiment. Think of: toys, dildo, oil, lubricant (silicone-based feels extra soft), towel, etc. That way you don't have to interrupt your session with yourself.
Forget the porn
Maybe you normally enjoy watching or listening to porn while masturbating. This time, omit the porn so that you are more inward-looking and can therefore feel better what turns you on.
Meditation
Always start with a meditation, taking a deeper breath. Breathing helps you shift your focus from your thoughts to your body. Then you can move your body slowly, such as in a movement meditation or during yoga. You can also do a more active warm up, with jumping, squats, and swinging your arms. Or wake up your body with sound, movement and caresses. Everything helps to get less into your head and more into your body.
Standing in front of the mirror
All positive sexual experiences start by loving yourself first. Therefore, try this exercise. Stand naked in front of a mirror and really take the time to look at yourself naked. Name three things you really like about your body. It can be as simple as, "I love my eyes" or "I love how strong my arms are." This puts you in a positive mood of self-love. Now close your eyes and use your other hand to stimulate yourself. You come out of “auto pilot” and really tune in to how you feel.
Loving touch
Gradually you start to lovingly touch yourself. During this exploration of your body you visualize your own body, your skin, your muscles, your sensitive areas and your hand touching your skin, then imagine every touch or feeling as a colored light shining into your body. The color symbolizes a certain feeling, a degree of intensity, of warmth and excitement. Don't be surprised if it takes time to reach arousal and orgasm, because touching yourself in this way is new.
Stimulation of the genitalia
Then you massage your own balls, perineum the edge of the anus and finally your penis. Close your eyes and use your other hand than you are used to to stimulate your penis. This way you really tune in to how you feel. Start exploring. Take at least 15 minutes to explore curiously. Grab a hand mirror and get acquainted not only with the feeling, but also with the appearance of your genitals. Slowly move your torso, chest, stomach and thighs.
Also keep touching the rest of your body to improve energy flow. Explore the places other than your penis or vagina: where do you feel a connection between your genitals and other body parts? Where is your pleasure most concentrated? The focus is always alternating on your genitals and then on the rest of your body.
Can I cum with mindful masturbation?
In mindful masturbation, the goal is not to orgasm, it's about the journey to the top, not the top itself. But I certainly wouldn't be dogmatic about that. If you feel like cumming (ejaculating) at the end, just do it nicely. It's your party! Try to postpone the orgasm for as long as possible, while getting into an orgasmic state. So you look for the edge in the transition from orgasm to “coming” (ejaculation). You can do this by taking a breather or by avoiding the specific type of stimulation that you know you will come off quickly. You can also breathe deeper. Bring the energy from your genitals to your chest.
“When men extend their orgasm to their chest, they can feel full and satisfied. It frees them from the need to ejaculate quickly and puts you in a deep state of satisfaction. ”
Moshe Weizman, sexological bodyworker
Can I get guidance in mindful masturbation?
Yes, you can receive guidance individually or in a group. I give (online) self-love sessions and I organize meetups / workshops around this theme. During a face-to-face or online session we will touch ourselves together and listen to our body. I encourage you to keep focusing your attention on yourself. So we alternate: focus on the other and focus on yourself. We can inspire each other and show each other what you like. In this way we discover new ways together. It can also be exciting to witness someone else stimulate themselves.
Mindful masturbation is meant to increase contact with your body, discover new feelings and help you discover new ways to please yourself. The 'goal' is to be able to say, 'I really know my body. I know which touches I like. ”
Daniel Saynt is founder of The New Society for Wellness (NSFW), a sex-positive club that organizes sex education workshops.
The photos on this page are from the Cumfaces series photographed by London-based photographer Stuart Sandford. He captured several male models at the time of an orgasm.
Film: Mindful Masturbation - A somatic pathway to self-love https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Wuhag9AddHc
Today I had a Tantra massage from Tijs. Quite exciting for a hetero man like me. But what a warm, loving appearance that man has !! He loosened up a lot more than just the muscles. I have experienced this massage as very positive and have an experience richer. It was worth repeating. Tijs is really a fantastic masseur with attention to his client. Simply TOP.
I have now received a number of tantra massages from Tijs.
Every time it was an amazing experience.
Tijs is very patient and loving. He alternates a firm massage with a gentle touch. I feel relaxed after the sessions, and the muscles are loose again.
Since I do these sessions, I have considerably fewer back problems.
Really super. Thank you Tijs
I really liked the combination of deep muscle massage in the places where it was solid and sour, and the pleasant touch and skin contact elsewhere. With other masseurs in the past I have experienced either one or the other, but never combined. The fact that my body memory was activated and also evoked sadness and longing was unexpected, but felt especially appropriate and good: the sadness is just there, my experience is that it can be evoked by everything (from music, photos, films or books to the light in the house) but now through your touch it came up in a very direct or pure form. For the rest of the day I was a little drowsy, relaxed and also sad in a connecting way, not desolate. The following days I felt new energy, as if I had been rinsed clean inside. For that I would like to thank you very much.
I suffered from stress at work and booked a full body massage with Tijs in Tienhoven. I had my doubts because there are many pictures of men on the site. After the acquaintance, that doubt was immediately gone, Tijs is a nice man who knows what women need. What a relief, from the first touch a burden fell off me and gradually I could sink deeper into myself. All the hassle at work didn't seem important after that, I felt that I was alive again. I cycled home as reborn and relieved from stress.